Wednesday, November 07, 2012

Get Over the Fear and Just Do It


Just do it.

That's the famous Nike motto that we've heard hundreds of times, but just how many of us follow this motto in our lives?

I still witness people going through the motions - working for the paycheck and not truly living an authentic life. I was in a store today looking at all the cashiers, and not one of them even had a smile on their face! You could just sense how much they wanted their shift to be over with. I have compassion for them, yet I also want to shake them, smack them upside the head and yell, "Why aren't you doing what you love?"

Some of the reasons I've heard from people are:

"Well, I have no choice."
"I can't make money doing what I really want."
"It will take too long to be successful."


What it boils down to, though, is that people are controlled by their fears. Fear of the unknown. Fear of failure. Fear of success. Fear of what people will say about them. (This is a big one.)

I understand that people want "stability" in their life. They want that steady paycheck that they can count on every two weeks or every month. The Bank of America layoffs are a small reminder that you can work for any big corporation in America and have your job taken away in a matter of minutes.

The truth is that no job is ever "stable"...

The Prison of Fear

Fear can be a great motivator, but it can also prevent us from pursuing our dreams. Remember that everything big in this world started with an idea, so who is to say that your big idea can't work?

Many people live in a prison of fear. It's become such a natural part of their lives that they are not even aware that all their actions are dominated by this fear. It doesn't help that most news broadcasts and TV programs project negative thoughts. Even our own government tries to control us through fear - which is a whole other topic for another forum, so I won't even try to take you down that rabbit hole!

Then there's the fear we get from family and friends. They come from a good place and just want the best for you, but their fears added on top of your fears will never get you anywhere.

Fears have led to anxiety disorder and depression in many people. It's an epidemic that has taken over our modern society. It's too bad schools don't have classes that give kids the tools to help them overcome fear.

Pinpoint Your Fears

The first step to getting over your fears is to know exactly what fear-based thoughts are occupying your mind.  Become a child who constantly asks that question, "Why?"

Why don't I take that first step toward my dream?

Why do I back away from this challenge?

There's a good acronym for FEAR that I like to reference, which is "False Evidence Appearing Real".  What we have to remember is that any fear we have is not real. It's just a hypothetical situation we've conjured up inside our heads.  It's the "What if?" question that dominates our mind.  The truth is, nothing has happened yet and you're just thinking negatively.

Many of our fear-based thinking started in childhood and comes from our environment.  Maybe you had a parent who failed in their business, so that has stopped you from starting your own business.  Maybe you grew up in poverty, so that prevents you from being focused on abundance.

Whatever has happened in your past, doesn't mean it's going to happen in your future.  YOU can turn things around and make a better life for yourself regardless of what you've been through.

Do One Thing Today and Squash Those Fears

Do one thing today that gets you closer to that big dream of yours. It can be as simple as making a phone call to a business coach or sitting down with a pen and paper and outlining what your perfect life would be. You could even just lay down on the couch and daydream for 15 minutes about what you love to do or the people you want to help.

Whatever it is....Do it RIGHT NOW. Then set aside 15 minutes everyday and do another thing to get you closer to your goal. You'll build momentum and confidence in yourself. The closer you get to that goal, the more real it will feel...and next thing you know, you've accomplished that goal!